Translated from 日本語 • View original The right argument doesn't always work
I often see leaders saying the right thing in the definition of problems related to business and organization, but they can't get everyone's understanding and can't work together as a team.
This is not limited to leaders.
Even if you say the same thing, there are people around you who are highly understanding and convinced, and there are people who are not.
Of course, it is natural for people who are not involved in taking action to be less convincing of those around them, but even people who act equally hard may have a difference in their ability to be convinced.
Righteousness hurts
Why?
I think like this. Everyone hates to argue and lose. (Note: Except for people with a strong M temperament)
Also, if your thoughts and actions are denied head-on, it will be very hurtful.
That is "no matter how correct it is".
Not only is it hurtful, but I gradually hate talking to someone who has done something wrong with me. You may end up hating it the worst.
The possibility of being able to do a good job as a team with someone you don't like is almost zero.
So what should we do?
When Saying the Right Thing, Be a Little Massive
When you say the right thing, you just have to be modest.
控えめとは・・・
- Don't criticize with a fair argument in front of the public (don't crush the mentality)
- Be careful with the way you say it
- Have a sense of respect for the other person
And no matter how much you think you are right, it may not be from the other person's point of view, so don't think it's "absolutely" right.
The other person has something you don't know about in any case.
At the very least, they know their feelings better than you.
On the other hand, it is the same when the opponent who has been attacking with the right argument is wrong.
Even then, you have to do it "modestly".
ISAO aims to be a team that has the spirit of "moderate arguments" and respect for each other, and can have necessary discussions, sometimes fierce discussions, and constructive criticism.