Translated from 日本語 • View original Because of my role, I have many opportunities to be involved in recruitment interviews and talk about my career within the company. At that time, I often think, "Oh, this person is a very good person, but his salary is so low."
He has skills and a good mindset. There is also a desire to grow.
But in the process of building my career, I have made a mistake somewhere. The value that should be recognized is not recognized. That's how it feels.
It's a pity. I thought about why it was a waste.
What "Cherished" Careers Have in Common
Some of the people who are sorry were really unlucky. However, in many cases, there are commonalities between events that seem to have occurred due to self-inflicted factors.
Somewhere in the process of continuously developing your career, there is a time when you are stumbling.
You may not be able to get around well in the company, your career may have stagnated, or your relationships with those around you may not be going well, and you may be cornered and change jobs in a bad way.
The true nature of stumbling is "to create enemies"
Something that ruins the growth environment. That is, to make enemies within the company.
Many people who regret have strong self-opinions and strong assertiveness. If you are too assertive to come to terms with each other, or if you attack the other person, you will have enemies before you know it, even if you don't want to.
By the way, "attack" is the same as subtly denying the other person's way of thinking, even if it is not so aggressive.
Also, there seems to be a difference in what happens depending on the size of the company.
In the case of a large company, the boss may become an enemy, be hated, and delay in career. (I remember it too.) ）
However, there is a reassignment once every few years, so in most cases, the environment changes again. If you don't have to confront the next person again, you can return to a state where there are no enemies.
It's more critical in a small company. If you have a conflict with someone influential in the company, you will not be able to stand out semi-permanently.
If you do that, you will have to change jobs that will eventually break your career.
My career and salary have stagnated just before I change jobs, so it is difficult to step up even if I change jobs.
Strong Thoughts and Strong Assertiveness Are Good Things
Strong thoughts, strong arguments.
I have talked so far about the pattern of having it and not being able to come to terms with it becomes a negative, but in fact, successful people in the world often have exactly the same background.
On the other hand, there are very few cases where people who do not have strong ideas and do not have assertiveness are successful.
If you think about it this way, those who have stumbled are on a thin line with success. Maybe it's a really bad person.
Who changes and who doesn't change
My guess is that people who are assertive tend to have more experiences of failure in relationships than usual.
At the very least, you are more likely to clash with people than those who can communicate easily without strong arguments.
Even if you don't have a bad feeling, you can say it badly or make the other person think you're aggressive.
The difference between success and failure is whether you can learn from that failure and change your communication with others and your own behavior. It seems to be infected.
If you can accept it, you can change
I have experienced it, but it is difficult to accept the reality that I have problems. Moreover, when people around you convey it to you with an objective evaluation, it is easy to feel repulsed.
But in fact, the person who says it is going out of his way to buy a role that he doesn't like.
If you can be grateful for it and accept it honestly, you will be able to become a person who goes from being a regrettable person to a person who is on the way to success.
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